Introduction
If you havenβt noticed already, the writers at Vagabond are big Fight Club fans. Chuck Palahniukβs flagship book is an excellent piece of modern work to truly understand the modern mental health and cost of living crisis. We wonβt delve into those statistics again, but we highly recommend you read our previous article to understand these problems better. Link below.
The book and the movie Fight club fundamentally encompass the modern mentality thrust on young people. βGo to a good school, go to college, get a good job, get married, contribute to your retirement petition, retire at 60, dieβ. This is the modern worldβs perception of how one achieves self-actualization. So when someone cannot meet these milestones for various reasons, it begins to have massive impacts on their place in society and how people perceive them, ultimately resulting in depression and isolation.
But what if someone does meet those expectations? What happens after that? That is, fundamentally, the problem most people grapple with daily. If you feel this way, you are not alone in this problem; Many people are in the same boat. We spend our whole lives grinding for what?
βWe buy things we donβt need with money we donβt have to impress people we donβt likeβ
-Tyler Durden
This article expands on two of the concepts of Vagabondβs philosophy, "The Way.β
Letting go of all earthly tethers.
Always looking forward and letting go of the past.
Letting go of All Earthly Tethers
Whenever people hear about the concept of βletting go of all earthly tethers,β they often equate it to becoming some temple monk and giving up everything they ever had. This is fundamentally incorrect.
The simplest way of explaining this concept is with two words; stop caring. Stop caring about the possessions you have, what degree you will study, what others think of you, what house you live in, what college you went to, what job you work in, and so on. This is what it means to become βuntetheredβ from the earth. When you learn to stop caring, suddenly, you have no burdens. You can live daily for what it is and not for what it could be, based on what society thinks you should do.
βThere is surely nothing other than the single purpose of the present moment. A man's whole life is a succession of moment after moment. There will be nothing else to do, and nothing else to pursue. Live being true to the single purpose of the momentβ
βYamamoto Tsunetomo
The above quote from the Hagakure perfectly encompasses this concept. There is nothing in this world more important than the present moment you live in. No one is promised tomorrow. Why waste your life worrying about things that will happen in the future when you could be struck down by disease, be hit by a car, or get caught in an accident? Itβs pointless worrying about the future because itβs something you cannot control.
This is one side of the coin, however. Many people extrapolate βletting goβ to the stereotypical hippy who does nothing all day, does not care about anything, and just gets baked and flies off to dreamland.
This is not how one should live life. The fundamental difference is that instead of caring about external possessions, the way internalizes what a person should care about. A simple example is as follows:
Instead of wasting time and money on an over-the-top car, spend that time and money on building a body chiseled from marble.
Instead of wasting time and money on a needless 3D character and in-game items like skins, spend the money on gaining new knowledge and skill, which is invaluable.
βThe things you own end up owning youβ
βTyler Durden
Letting go of all earthy tethers means that any items, objects, people, or groups you belong to can be cut out at a momentβs notice. We are not saying to break bonds of kin over petty worldly issues. What this concept fundamentally encompasses is being anti-fragile to loss and betrayal. If your spouse betrays your trust, cut them out and move forward. If a group of friends ghosts you, they have clarified their intentions and are not worthy of your friendship. Dwelling on these lost relationships is counter-productive to moving forward. βThe wayβ is fundamentally about destroying the old self every day and continuing to evolve.
Always Looking Forward
The reality of life is that most people are failures. Unless you are born into extreme privilege, the idea of achieving great success is challenging. Also, in the social media age, if you are not constantly βhustling,β you are seen as a failure. Hence, many feel like they have not achieved enough at the present moment in time and thus feel like a failure.
For the longest time, I struggled with my weight. Growing up, I was always the chubby kid, even though I participated in combat-based sports regularly. I couldn't quite figure out how to shed the extra pounds and get in shape.
When I turned 17 and moved out of my parent's house, I found myself living with two bodybuilders who were only a year or two older than me. I couldn't help but feel pathetic when I compared myself to them. Their sculpted physiques were a stark contrast to my own.
One day, while I was wallowing in disappointment, one of my roommates picked up on my emotions and told me that I would join them at the gym the following Monday. Despite my initial reluctance, they managed to convince me to join them, and before long, I found myself in the gym every day, lifting and learning from my roommates.
They gave me a rousing pep talk about how my past didn't matter and that if I started lifting now, I could become just as strong as they were. They urged me to let go of my insecurities about being overweight and to focus on the present.
With time, I began to notice changes in my body. I started to build muscle, and before I knew it, I had surpassed my roommates in some lifts. The transformation was incredible, and I couldn't believe how far I had come. This is when I first learned to act and not think.
βAll that matters is having single-minded purpose ( ichinen), in the here and now. Life is an ongoing succession of βone willβ at a time, each and every moment. A man who realizes this truth need not hurry to do, or seek, anything else anymore. Just live in the present with single-minded purpose. People forget this important truth, and keep seeking other things to accomplish.β
βYamamoto Tsunetomo
The above quote conceptualizes a simple concept - Act, donβt think. It really does not matter what state you are in life. Fat, poor, uneducated, or weak-willed. Accept it, and form the intention of improving, then act.
An example:
You are overweight and want to lose weight.
You spend weeks planning a meal plan, deciding on a workout, and buying useless items like gym gear to start working out. By the time you actually get in the gym and start eating well, you are already exhausted.
So instead, once you intend to lose weight, act immediately. Register for the gym at that very point, and do a workout. It doesnβt matter what you do, do it.
The difference between examples one and two is that with two, there is no delay between the intention and action. This allows you to maximize that burst of motivation, which later will be formed into a habit, cultivating discipline.
This example applies to everything in life. Always act, donβt think. Mindlessly charging toward your goals is the most effective way to improve. Dwelling on the small details often leads to a cycle of regret, bringing up negative memories. βThe wayβ is about moving forward above anything else.
A perfect example of this is the first fight from Fight Club. Tyler and the narrator are outside a bar, and Tyler asks the narrator to punch him.
The narrator hesitates. Instead of just acting, he is thinking about what to do. This frustrates Tyler, who fundamentally understands the concept of acting without thinking.
To drive this point home, when the narrator asks Tyler where he should hit him, he replies, βsurprise me.β
What Tyler is doing here is simple. He is teaching the narrator how to act instead of think. This is important, as it is the key that allows Tyler to teach his weaker half how to let go, stop worrying about consequences or failure, stop looking to past mistakes, and act in the present moment because the present moment is all that matters.
So from this point on, as you read these words, forget about your imperfections, failures, and regrets. Now you are reborn anew, in the present moment. And only the present moment matters. Strive to better yourself with this newfound wisdom, and let go of what previously held you down.
Ascension
βIt Is Only After We Have Lost Everything That We Are Free To Do Anythingβ
βTyler Durden
You may be reading this article, thinking to yourself that you are too far gone for redemption. You might have even hit rock bottom, stuck in self-imposed damnation.
Hitting rock bottom isnβt a curse; itβs a gift from the universe. It shows you your imperfections, makes them clear, and thus allows you to refine them. Donβt think your imperfections need to be destroyed or cut off like some cancer clinging to you. They are what make you unique, even if they are destructive. Instead, focus on conquering the present moment, and you will ascend.
This mortal life is too short to worry about trivial matters or about the opinions of others. Realizing this will free you of your self-imposed shackles.
βKnow that the life of this world is but amusement and diversion and adornment and boasting to one another and competition in increase of wealth and children β like the example of a rain whose [resulting] plant growth pleases the tillers; then it dries and you see it turned yellow; then it becomes [scattered] debris. And in the Hereafter is severe punishment and forgiveness from Allah [God]and approval. And what is the worldly life except the enjoyment of delusion.β
- Holy Quran, 57:20
And rememberβ¦
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Reminds me a lot of Simone Weil, who talked about the void as well and aspiring to a radical non-identification with purely earthly goals.
The apostle Paul put it thus: live according to the spirit, not according to the flesh. This doesn't mean shutting out the world, on the contrary: seeing the world more clearly in its subtle structure, and acting in it accordingly.
Thanks for writing this up, can't talk enough about spiritual subtleties these days, so many people have never thought about those things!
Very timely read for me, appreciate your work.